Dating in your mid 20’s – Push Pull men 17, August, 2008

 

I hate the push and pull men. They push you away then out of the blue they want to pull you in. I really really dislike it how guys are so complicated. The only thing I can do is just roll my eyes.

Can someone please explain to me why men tend to gravitate to us when we ignore them? Why? Its almost like you cant show any kind of interest of affection because that’s when they run a mile away … the second you ignore them, the second you no longer give a crap about them and they know it .. that’s the moment that they decide they want you and that you mean everything to them. Is it just the thrill of the chase? Is it the idea of someone else now wants to play with the toy and they suddenly realize…hang on I wanna play with that toy now give it to me…

 

It really annoys me…

 

I went overseas for 3 months last year and met a guy there… yup you’ve prob read about him before… Mike. Mike and I had a bit of a connection and well we had kept in touch however my gut feeling told me a few months back that he was seeing someone but didn’t want to tell me. So I said to him that it was fine if he was seeing someone that it didn’t matter .. but he kept denying it. Anyway because of that I backed off, I got over him as communication became sparse and I stopped paying much attention. Suddenly out of now where Mike decides that ive been ignoring him and all of the sudden im “my precious princess”… wtf!? Where does this come from? Haven’t really spoken to you for like 2 months no replies to emails prior to that, never answered his phone and suddenly send me messages that say “hey beautiful going crazy without you, when you coming back” and “hey my precious princess you have no idea how much I miss you, have you forgotten about me already? I Miss us, miss you, miss your voice, specially love hearing you first thing in the morning you sound so good really really missing you please return my calls soon” … hello?  WTF!?? Where did this come from??? I guess the girl that he was seeing must have dumped him and is that slump phase where any attention is good attention and suddenly thinks im going to be the one to heal his heart. Well I don’t think so. So I took my time in replying to him and when I finally did, he is been completely amorous and cannot even tell you the lovingness coming from him… the more I stay away from him the more desirable I seem to become. But he is too late, he ignored me and didn’t communicate with me for a long time and so I lost interest…. In this particular case distance did not make the heart grow fonder but lack communication definitely lost me.

 

But I do wonder what is it that makes men tick?  Do men have a gene driven command unit that keeps them in a perpetual state of only child syndrome? Whereby you want what isn’t yours for the mere you want it and you don’t like that you don’t have it?

I put any money on it that if were to return the affection he seems to be attempting to shower me with he would suddenly have lost interest and I would no longer be so desirable to him. Ehhhh whatever.